Lessons in Leadership Week 9-Gloria Torres

Gloria touched on a variety of key leadership aspects. In particular, she discussed the idea that your biggest job as a leader is to build up others. What is your strategy to encourage and build up leadership in others throughout your time at UCO?


  • Jenna Gaberino

    A leaders job is not only to lead, but to also look out for their followers. This could include checking up on them, being willing to be a mentor for them, and encouraging them to succeed. The best way to encourage leadership in others is to serve as an example so I would like to inspire others with my own example of leadership. There are so many volunteering activities at UCO that I would like to make people aware of. Just being there for people and cheering them on can sometimes inspire them as well so I do my best to acknowledge others achievements to let them know how well they are doing.

  • Adjoa Yeboah

    Building up other people as well as helping them to feel seen is one of my main priorities as a leader. I have always thought that people feel the most comfortable whenever they feel seen and heard. My main strategy for this is to just listen. Being a good listener is such an important quality to have as a leader and listening can go such a long way for many many people

  • Alisyn Dunn

    There are many strategies that build up leaders. Personally, I think the best thing a leader can do to build up someone else is to ask them the best way they can be lead. Asking them how can I help you today and aid you in what’s going on in your life. I think too often we assume that people are going through similar stage in life that we are but that’s not the case. We are all different people and we are at different stages in life. Leading people is an individual experience. My main thing would be to ask others and make sure I’m leading the individual as well as I can.

  • Alisyn Dunn

    There are many strategies that build up leaders. Personally, I think the best thing a leader can do to build up someone else is to ask them the best way they can be lead. Asking them how can I help you today and aid you in what’s going on in your life. I think too often we assume that people are going through similar stage in life that we are but that’s not the case. We are all different people and we are at different stages in life. Leading people is an individual experience. My main thing would be to ask others and make sure I’m leading the individual as well as I can.

  • Bryce Atkins

    My strategy to build up leadership in others is to go out of my way to show kindness and encouragement to others. I believe that when people feel that they are seen and valued they are more inclined to show that same kindness and acceptance to others. This in turn can build confidence, which is a huge part of being a successful leader. If a person does not feel confident in themselves how are they supposed to lead others and be involved in their communities? Sometimes all people need is that extra boost of support to motivate them to be good leaders.

  • Olivia Sander

    I think that my strategy of encouraging other through my time on UCOs campus if to always have a friendly face and to always have an open mind. I feel that if you come into campus with a closed off mind then you are limiting your experiences to making a difference on campus. In my short time at UCO, I have come in with an open mind and I have made a lot of friends that I would not even have acknowledged back in my hometown. By building up people’s self-esteem you are then also building up their leadership skills. I plan to just be encouraging and always give kind words to them. To just let them know that I am always here and that I can help in any way, shape, or form that I can.

  • Gracie Barnett

    I believe building others up is so important as a leader. In order to do this we have to get to know the people we are leading. My goal as a leader is to really bring people together. I want to create opportunities to get people together so that we can all learn from each other, have fun and grow. This way I can get to know people and learn what they want and need so that I can help build them up and create a great environment for them. I want to be completely selfless and pour my time here at UCO into helping other people. Helping others grow is what is going to help me grow as a leader.

  • Kaylie McClintock

    One of my strengths from the strengths finder test was individualization. This means that I excel at being able to ‘instinctively observe each persons style, each persons motivation, how each thinks, and how each builds relationships’. My Relator theme shows that I ‘want to understand their feelings, fears, goals, and dreams; and that I want them to understand mine’. By knowing all of these intimate details that make up a person I can help to build them up and guide them. My goal is to keep getting to know people, one-by-one, on an intimate level. Help people with homework, listen to them talk about their struggles at home or at work, let them know how I am doing and ask them for advice. The more you build individual (and equal) relationships, the more you let people see the raw unfiltered you (and let them point out your flaws sometimes), the easier it is to really build them up and help them live up to their full potential.

  • Blair Majors

    My strategy to encourage and build up leadership in others throughout my time at UCO is to make sure people know what they are capable of. I want those around me to know that their differences are a good thing and every quality is helpful in a certain aspect of leadership. I think one of the biggest ways we can encourage people and make them be more confident leaders is to acknowledge the hard work and effort they put into their work/leadership roles. When we acknowledge and appreciate the efforts of those around us, it makes them feel seen and more confident in their leadership abilities. One of the biggest things that has caused me to grow in my leadership has been the encouraging people around me that let me know that I am capable of doing what I want, and that I am acknowledged for the things that are done well.

  • Ben Hastings

    One thing Mrs. Torres said that resonated with me is that leaders should ensure volunteers understand their importance. When LOT volunteered at the regional food bank, their staff explained and described the impact of our work, making our efforts more rewarding than had they not. This concept is something I want to replicate as a leader because it’s something I appreciate as a volunteer. Another thing Mrs. Torres said was, “Leaders build people up. Managers tell people what to do.” I feel this statement is excellent because it draws a line between literally leading people and being a leader. Yes, leaders tell people what to do, but they also establish a community with their followers and treat them respectfully. Therefore, based on these examples, my strategies for building others up are informing them of their importance and going beyond management to make a personal connection.

  • Cooper Autry

    First of all, a good way to look at leadership is like a house, and the first step to building a house is building/establishing the foundation. I believe the key to encouraging and building up leadership in others is to empower others; in other words, make others feel valued and appreciated. Empowering others can be done in numerous ways, such as appointing someone to lead a particular service project or asking someone to take an active role in giving a presentation. Once that foundation of confidence is built, and others say to themselves, “I matter and feel heard and valued.”, the sky is the limit in terms of their potential as leaders. After building this foundation and maintaining this foundation this is when the people you inspire can get to business; in other words, to start building their walls of their house that represents leadership. Ultimately, it is key to ask questions such as “What does this person want to accomplish as a leader? What are this person’s strengths and weaknesses? What organizations, causes, or issues are this person passionate about?”. Asking questions such as these allow me and the other potential leaders to get to know others and themselves better and gain a more precise idea of their leadership style and vision. These specific attributes, strengths, interests, and character traits are what begin to make up the walls of the house. Ultimately, as I previously stated, my strategy to encourage and build up leadership in others throughout my time at UCO is to empower others and make everyone feel valued, to pour the foundation that other individuals can use to grow and develop as a leader. Oftentimes, people, including myself at one point in my life, need some help pouring the foundation, but once that basis of self-confidence and recognition of potential is established, they can “build their own walls” and continue to build them higher and higher as they grow as a leader.

  • Chase Sutton

    My strategy to help build up leadership in others is to just let them know that I will always be in their corner. I feel that knowing that someone is in my corner would be one of the driving forces that would keep me going. Although this isn’t a proactive type of leadership, I still feel like it is a good aspect to have. Sometimes it is best to let people know that you trust them enough to lead on their own but you are still there to help in whatever way they need.

  • Chloe Falls

    I think one of the best strategies in building others up is allowing them to feel appreciated and seen for their hard work. It is also important to always make sure those around you feel comfortable and heard. One of the biggest issues among students our age is the anxiety that comes with speaking up about ideas and solutions. It is our job as leaders to show those around us that they are contributing in a positive way. Even the most confident leaders struggle with self doubt, no person will always know exactly what to say, nor will they be willing to. One thing Gloria Torres said during her speech that stood out to me was that as leaders, we should never tell others what to do, but rather empower them to do the things they see fit.

  • Carsyn Cardwell

    Building others up is essential as a leader because you can’t be a leader without followers. People want leaders that care about them and make them feel good about themselves. The strategy I use to build others up is to be empathetic. Understanding where other people are coming from and respecting that is a great way to make people feel heard. You can validate their thoughts and feelings by listening and being respectful. This will build people up because they will feel like you allow them to have a voice and care about what they have to say.

  • Marissa Bumgarner

    Building up others is a very important job to carry out as a leader. One thing I try to work on is being present for others and being aware of what they are going through. I think it means a lot more for someone to build someone up as they are going through rough patches and that means being present consistently. I also think it is crucial to be an outlet for someone to have to express their struggles or even to talk about what is going well in their life. College is a hard time in a young person’s life and many students feel alone during this period. During my time at UCO, I want to be present and an outlet for the students to come to and I want to help build them up along the way.

  • Halle Melton

    Gloria Torres really hit on the aspect of having eyes on you at all times and that is in response to negative interactions and positive. The fact that people may want to get a rise out of you or the fact that you could inspire or influence someone else. It’s important to be the positive influence to others. Another point to that is to be consistent in your influence and consistency. Being a leader that can be counted on consistently to be a positive influence.

  • Isabel Celedon

    First, I think that knowing your own personal leadership style will help to grow as a leader yourself, and then you can encourage others to pursue leadership. I also like to learn about other people’s leadership styles, so I know how they like to interact and get things done. Furthermore, I like to set an example and become a really involved person because that might encourage others to join organizations or volunteer as well. I know Gloria Torres also mentioned that somebody is watching you and looking up to you and it is my goal to become an example of someone that is involved in a lot of leadership organizations and roles. I also think that the easiest and most simple way is to talk to someone about getting involved and growing their leadership qualities. I usually encourage others to just try it out and if you don’t like it, you don’t have to continue, but it never hurts to try.

  • Lily-Marie Fraley

    Making someone feel noticed is a great foundation to build up someone. During my time here, being accountable with someone can help. When times get tough, giving encouragement helps a lot. Giving advice and mentoring is another way too.

  • Emma Martinez

    My plan is to reach out and create a support group dedicated to helping others develop their leadership skills by creating events and activities that require using abilities such as discipline and teamwork. Another way can be by encouraging others to get out of their comfort zone and give advice and guidance if they need it.

  • Kama Wyatt

    I think the biggest idea to note is that everybody can be a leader. You can lead people without the title of “leader”. This is important to realize. Once you do, you can instill this fact into others. Helping people realize that ANYONE can lead is so beneficial, and oftentimes, empowers others to step up. Throughout my time at UCO, I plan to encourage others, like those not in PLC, to not be afraid to lead just because they don’t have a “title”. I will motivate those, both in this council and not, to feel empowered enough to lead. One of my top 5 strengths on strengthsfinder is developer, so I plan to utilize these skills to benefit and encourage those around me.

  • Grace Hibbs

    I believe a great way to encourage others in their leadership is to do precisely what we did in class on Thursday: to let people know when they’ve helped you. I also believe that one of the most common issues leaders face is insecurity in their abilities. Gloria mentioned how she constantly questions whether she’s the most qualified person to be in her position, and an amazing way to combat this feeling is to let someone know when they’ve made an impact on you. I can do this with everyone I work with or that helps me at UCO and hopefully it would build their confidence even just a little bit to get them closer to their next level, whatever that may look like for them.

  • The way I think is the best way to help build others up comes in 2 parts, one is helping them realize their potential, and the other is telling them why they aren’t there yet. This disparity between potential and outcomes is where the brunt of development, and need for leadership lies. Good leaders are the ones that can be a resource to those they lead and help them bridge the gap. Very rarely is there a true lack of talent or ability among the people we lead, but there is often a lack of motivation. Helping people stay focused and motivated is one of the biggest struggles for leaders. This is especially difficult in today’s day and age when so many things are competing for our time and attention. It is for these reasons that I find it so important to make a concerted effort to highlight the potential in the people I will eventually lead, and do all I can to help them reach it.

  • My strategy to encourage and build up leadership in others throughout my time at UCO is to create an environment where others feel comfortable. When someone is showing effort, I want to acknowledge them and tell them how great they are doing. Words of encouragement mean a lot. The more you communicate with others, take initiative, and practice effective organization, the more confident you will become in your leadership abilities. I want others to feel supported. Creating workshops for students to build leadership skills would be very useful.

  • Sam Gillis

    I would say my strategy to build up others’ sense coming to UCO has been to first lead by example. If you show them that what you are doing can be done and overcome then they will have it in their heads that they could lead. After that I have them help me in situations where I am having to lead people or problem solve something as a leader. This gives them an inner view of the processes one should go through when having to lead people. After that I give them their own task to work on and lead and tell them I know they can do it cause I would not have chosen them if I thought they couldn’t do it. After all of that they are already a leader before they know it and are ready to lead others after you can no longer and have to move on.

  • Caroline Cowherd

    As mentioned by Gloria Torres, it is a leader’s job to encourage those in their life to build them up. I have just recently realized my strength in doing so lies in words of affirmation. To acknowledge others great leadership qualities and verbalize their importance builds trust, confidence, and self reflection. It helps everyone reflect on their strengths and how they can be used best. Throughout my time at UCO, I hope to use my strength to be a voice of encouragement and to help others recognize their best qualities.

  • Lauren Clark

    Throughout my time at UCO I hope to make an impact on not only my college community but also the Edmond community as a whole. As I just started my leadership journey here at UCO I have found the amount of support I have received to be a major help in finding motivation for becoming a better leader. Because of this I hope to have the same impact on others that I have received so far. One example of something I can do to help build others up is to lead by example. In doing this I will be mindful of my actions along with doing things that make a good impact on the community. I will also practice being intentional with how I affect others. By leading by example I will be more intentional with making sure that the way I act is the way I want other people to act.

  • Erin Jaison

    Honestly the characteristics and sense of leadership that I posses today is a reflection of my previous mentors. They were there to guide and support me, which is what I would like to be for someone at UCO. I want to push people out of their comfort zones which is what I’ve been doing at my time at UCO. I want to build relationships with different people and encourage them just like my mentors did with me. I want to be that sense of mentor for someone that is struggling and don’t know how they will move foreword. By pushing myself and getting involved I will get to help others and push them, evoking that sense of leadership

  • Ashley Wood

    I know that most people know this, but choosing growth is my legacy. I have it tattooed on my wrist as a constant reminder. I used to believe the world was corrupt and there was no point in trying to be anything other than a useless person. After a lot of learning, I realized my mindset was completely wrong. I had been choosing to fail. It lightly ties in with “failing to plan is planning to fail” in a less literal sense. If you’re not actively choosing growth, you’re not living with purpose. Choosing growth is in every single aspect of life. Being kind is choosing growth. Sharing your beliefs is choosing growth. Trying something you’re nervous about is choosing growth. The biggest way that I choose growth is by inspiring and encouraging others. People cannot lead without believing in themselves first. Encouraging others by complimenting them, giving them a helping hand, or even smiling at them is helping them grow as a leader. Everyone has a voice, and Gloria did a beautiful job at expressing this.

  • Norah Stephenson

    To encourage and build up leadership in others I believe we need to create deep and meaningful relationships with those around us. If we don’t know others well, we won’t be able to connect with others on a deeper level. It is extremely hard to offer constructive criticism or give heartfelt compliments if we don’t know the person. I hope during my time at UCO I will be able to connect with others in a meaningful way, so that I can encourage and build up leadership qualities in others and also learn how to be a leader from others.

  • Bergen Bailey

    My strategy to encourage and build up leadership in others is in the question. Take volunteering for example. Some people may dislike service while others enjoy it. If you encourage others to do service, they will feel forced to do it. If you encourage them and support them in order to build them up, they will learn to appreciate serving others for themselves. The same applies to building a leader. At first, they may feel required to lead. Over time. they realize that leading is not only beneficial to others, but to themselves as well. By helping others lead, you are building yourself and the people you help.

  • Kinesey Sherman

    For me, my strategy to encourage and build up leadership is community. I think bonding with the people around you gives you the friendship and encouragement you need. Within that bond you can become a leader and step up into that role. When your community sees you step up to that role that will encourage them to become leaders as well.

  • Zach Kernal

    In order to build up leadership in others during my time at UCO I’m going to encourage other students here to get involved on campus. Specifically by encouraging them to join student organizations and attend events around campus. I also want to build leadership in others by offering help to my peers whenever I can.

  • Brynn Coppedge

    Gloria spoke about how one of the biggest jobs of a leader is to build up others. Good leaders inspire others to want to become good leaders themselves. My strategy to build up leadership in others throughout my time at UCO is to get more involved so I can meet more people. By taking up more projects, I can find more people who need a leader. I will work throughout my time at UCO to learn how to be the best leader I can be.

  • Sheba Saju

    My strategy to encourage and build up leadership in others throughout my time at UCO is by seeing the potential in others, identifying their strengths and weaknesses, and give them advice based on their weaknesses while also encouraging them to use their talents for the growth of the community. This is very important for mentorship as well. I have had many mentors throughout my life and I hope to be a mentor to someone in my time at UCO. I was also inspired by how Gloria Torres was a leader among a older group. I admire the strength and courage she had to do this.

  • jolie barton

    My approach is to always be the backbone for other people. To me, being a good leader is all about making sure that your subordinates are happy. By always being that person and motivating others to want to make a difference, I hope to boost the level of happiness and positivity on campus. Since actions speak louder than words, the best way for me to have an influence is to be able to hold my colleague’s responsible while also making them feel appreciated as I would want them to do to me.

  • Elizabeth Estabrooks

    My strategy to encourage and build up leadership in others is to verbally encourage them. I find that “words of affirmation” is one of the most common love languages and even if it isn’t that particular person’s love language, it can help boost their self-confidence to know that even one person sees and appreciates them!

  • Jesse Brooks

    My strategy to build up leaders starts with my actions. I want people to be able to look at me and see a good leader who they can model themselves off of. Not only that but I will do my best to speak up when I see good leadership being applied and try to help someone see ways they can improve if they are struggling with an aspect of leadership. This will be my way to encourage others in a good and healthy leadership direction while growing in knowledge and leadership ability. I will also try to spend time with established leaders from whom I can get tips and try to input those tips myself. This will help grow leadership as a whole and encourage others to do the same.

  • Breanna Henry

    I agree with Gloria on the idea that building others up plays a massive role in leadership. I believe that you are only as strong as the people you are leading. One of the greatest assets a human can have is the ability to instill confidence in another human. Some of the greatest leaders in my personal life have also been the people who believed in me and encouraged me in my journey and gave me confidence. And even more than that, they gave me confidence in the power I have to do that for others. However, I don’t believe that this has to be a great courageous act. I think its the small acts of kindness, the little compliments, that build people up and inspire them. Since being in college I have tried to give at least one compliment a day and let people know when they’ve done something impactful, or to thank those who I normally wouldn’t think to. I think small acts such as that build up and will have a much larger impact one day.

  • Destiny Ryan

    For me, I focus on individual connection with others. If I notice someone seems discouraged or just in need of a boost, I talk to them. Sometimes people just need to take about what’s going on, and other times they just need someone to get up and do a task with them. As a leader, you have to be able to read a person and evaluate if they want to talk, want to be helped, or sometimes just want to be left alone. Encouragement isn’t always going to come in the form of a pep talk. When you have that connection with others, it can spark leadership in those you’re working with. I truly believe connection is the way to build a community of leaders.

  • Lane Willoughby

    I think that meeting a person and making some kind of connection can start any friendship and considering a person as a friend will always help in building each other up. I like to talk to almost everyone I see and a kind smile or giving them my name can establish this. From here I always like to check in every once in a while. I cannot be best friends with everyone I meet, but I can reach out and be supportive if they need it. I want everyone to feel comfortable and going through college can be lonely so just letting people know that I am there for them if they need it can really help people grow and feel more comfortable moving through our college years.

  • Tyler Gleason

    Cliche, but effective, the golden rule will always be a strong way to build up and encourage others. If I have encountered enough trash from other people throughout my lifetime, why would I choose to dump it on someone else? When I encourage others, I cannot be thinking of my own gain or I have lost my ability to empathize with the person. Like Gloria talked about in her session, sympathy and empathy are two different things because the latter requires a real time action. I enjoy asking people about the things that make them tic because once a person has opened up to you, you can better know how to encourage them. To add on to that, a one and done compliment is not enough most of the time. If we are leading people, we have to treat them less like boxes to be checked and more like shareholders in a common goal. Show people you care; invest in them and invest in what you love.

  • Abby Harelson

    An important strategy is to have the understanding that everyone’s lives and paths are different. Encouragement for others should be a constant trait to have as a leader, despite someone’s personal views/beliefs, physical appearance, the specific foal or route that person is on, etc. Building up others in my opinion is one of the biggest roles as a leader, if not the biggest. Being accepting, encouraging, welcoming, and uplifting are traits I hope I can possess.

  • Kathryn Irwin

    A strategy I use to uplift others is I trying to give at least five comments a day to people I don’t know and one complement a day about someone’s character. That I may know not as well or I know really well . I know those weren’t bring me up because everyone feels like they’re not doing well enough in life but everyone is faking it so sometimes you need acknowledgment that you’re faking it is working, and if you’re not faking it it’s great to have that sense of pride so you find the thing you truly have a knack for.

  • Lillie Taylor

    As a musical theatre major, I definitely see people struggling with their confidence on a daily basis. Without possessing confidence, especially in the strengths we have, we cannot be good leaders. By reminding my fellow MT majors of the strengths they have, their self-confidence could be boosted. When they lack confidence because they feel they are struggling with something, I could offer to help them. I could also share stories and experiences with them about when I felt the same emotions. By helping people and reminding them that they aren’t alone in whatever they do, I can build up others. And by building up others, and abundance of stronger leaders are created.

  • Conner Mclaughlin

    To build people up, you must first understand where they’re coming from, hear their needs and issues, and understand that you and them get through these issues together. There’s a bond that needs to be there in order to build others. Building others can be simple acts of kindness or going by a rigid step by step procedure. It all starts with people though, so treat the people you lead as such and you’re already off to a good start

  • Jackson Mckinney

    I think that good leadership comes with experience. In order to encourage and build up leadership in others throughout my time at UCO, I will do my best to help them get involved and get experience leading. With time, people become more comfortable leading, which will make them want to help others in the same position they were. Additionally, I will help build up others by encouraging them to share their ideas. This will help them gain the confidence to further build on themselves and take charge.

  • Mariah Deere

    I really enjoyed how Gloria mentioned you can’t be a leader without people following you. And you can’t do that without building a relationship with them. Some leadership aspect I use to build others up is I let them know I am trustworthy, reliant, and people motivated. I enjoy helping others achieve a goal and I like to let them know they can someone to talk to and won’t judge them on what they want to do. And then I let them know I am reliant and will back them up when they need it. I am also always ready to help them in anyway I can.

  • Jacob McBride

    Building others up is something I find extremely important, but also something I need to work on myself. I have found myself in scenarios where the people I am working with are struggling with something, and I cannot find a resolution to the problem. I have also found that individual success matters almost nowhere. You are only as good as what your entire team can bring to the table. I believe communication is the most important aspect when trying to achieve this. If your followers do not know what you want or need, how will they ever know how to do it? Another important aspect is trust. Show them that you truly care about them as a person, and also show you can work on the front lines right along with them.

  • Ariel Luna

    I also building up others is a key aspect of being a leader. Since the beginning of freshman year I have been focusing on learning and watching the older leaders here and looking at the example they leave. They know this place better than I do at this point in time and they all seem like genuine good people. It’s good to learn who your audience is. As I go through the rest of college I want to listen to others and get involved in what they’re interested. Let them know that what they have to offer is valuable.

  • Milana Khaikhan

    The development of social activity and leadership commitment should begin already at preschool age. The need to be a leader is one of the leading needs of a child.
    I also like to learn about other people’s leadership styles, so I know how they like to interact and achieve their goals. I think the easiest way is to talk to someone about getting involved and developing their leadership skills. The need to be a leader is one of the leading needs of a child.

    Senior preschool age is a sensitive period for the development of organizational skills. Even if the child does not become a leader, then organizational skills will be useful in any kind of activity and are of great importance for professional growth. The desire for leadership is nothing more than the realization of one’s potential, the desire for superiority over people in one’s familiar environment. The problem of leadership disappears only in the case of loneliness, and since a person grows and develops in interaction with people from early childhood, the desire to surpass others pursues him throughout his life. This desire undoubtedly acts as a stimulating factor that awakens energy; it activates the personality and gives it perseverance and perseverance in overcoming difficulties.