Lessons in Leadership – Week 11 – Jack Evans

During Jack Evan’s presentation he mentioned the challenges of working with transactional people and how valuable intentional relationships can be inside and outside of your company. What are ways you can ensure you are investing in intentional relationships and transformative leadership, versus strictly transactional?

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  • Jerzi Hawkins

    I think as a leader, creating intentional relationships with those around you is very important. The first step is seeing them as a human first. No matter if they are the CEO or the janitor, treating them with equal respect. Truly being interested in their lives and asking questions. It can be something as simple as knowing what type of dog they have and and its name and asking about them every so often, and making sure you make steps to maintain that relationship even when you don’t need anything.

  • Kyrah Raasch

    One of the first things I do when meeting a new person is see what characteristics they have. I agree either Jack Evans in the fact that I do not enjoy working with strictly transactional people. I enjoy forming a bond, getting to know people around me and this results in intentional relationships. I observe different characteristics in the people around me and learn from there where they fit best in my life. The people who can be intentional in their relationship with me, get that in return. However, if a person seems only transactional, if I truly need them for any reason in my life then I face the fact that they cannot be avoided and make the best of the situation at hand, but if I do not need them then I try to leave that relationship and find one that is intentional.

  • Marcus Evans

    Being understanding to the people around you is a great way to be intentional. Correctly guessing how and what they are thinking and feeling can help you develop a bond with them that becomes very personal. Making relationships with your followers and everyone else around you can help you become a good transformative leader. Transformative leaders create connections in order to motivate their followers and increase moral. Transactional leaders are essentially working for better relates with end products. If you have a higher concern for people than you do for results, you should make connections with your followers by listening and understanding them.

  • Ashley Jimenez

    In Jack’s presentation, he mentioned that he would throw parties and fundraise money for his company. He would then see who were his real friends there. We could do the same and see who has helped us whenever we were at the bottom. For me, I have more intentional relationships with people who have struggled along with me and have helped me through.
    Vice versa with organizations. As leaders, we have to observe how others work too. You need to test other’s loyalty in a way where they show if they are transactional or intentional. If they are doing the bare minimum, then they are transactional.

  • Katherine Ryerson

    First of all, I think it is important to note that we all as leaders need to know how to deal with transactional people. Although this is not easy, and often not preferred, sometimes we do not get to choose the types of people we have to deal with. I do understand and agree with the point of his message, though. You should strive to surround yourself with leaders who do not have the same behaviors as transactional people. One way to ensure this is to lead by example. Most of the time, when the head of a company or a leader is demonstrating the same efforts and energy that they are expecting from their employees, you do not see this to be as big of a problem. Setting high standards for your employees is also another way to ensure you do not hire transactional people. This is the same way with friendships or any other type of relationship. From the beginning, demonstrate the kind of friend you would want and set high standards for them. Unfortunately, we all will eventually come in contact with transactional people. I agree with Mr. Evan’s thoughts to avoid these people if at all possible. This decision is best for himself, and his company.

  • Jordan Montelongo

    Working with people you trust and can develop are important if you want to accomplish your goals. Anyone can manage others but, leaders are able to provide the knowledge employees need to help them progress in their work. Everyone I work with has the ability to gain knowledge and ultimately make an impact. As a leader, I believe it is our job to help educate the people around us, ensuring we are well equipped for others to take the next step in leadership. We must see the people we are leading as opportunities for growth and we can showcase that with empathy, where we understand the feelings of others. We should not focus on the output of others but rather create a deeper connection with one another, to show we care about their future success.

  • Whisper McDoulett

    Ensuring that the relationships you’re forming are intentional and transformative can be very complex. It’s hard to depict whether someone is transactional or not before you’ve had several bad experiences with them. It’s important that you get to know a colleague, friend or business partner before doing work with them. Having time to just talk and get to know each other without discussing business is crucial. You can get to know someone’s character and intentions in this approach. The minute you come across someone who is transactional or lacks dignity is the minute you need to cut ties with them. There will be beneficial, equal partnerships elsewhere. In this case the counterpart will equivalently share efforts and wisdom, leaving both parties content.

  • David Harlin

    Leaders who do not care about those they are leading will never be successful leaders. This does not mean that they need to care on a deep and personal level for all those following their lead, but rather that they not be leading to strictly gain something from those they are leading. That would be a form of transactional leadership. As a leader it is so important to invest in the people around you. As Jack Evan’s shared, in his business, he is constantly grooming employees for leadership positions. As he invests in the lives of his employees in an intentional manner, they are able to eventually take on meaningful leadership roles.

  • Amaya Coleman

    We can make sure we are making intentional relationships by actually building a relationship. You can do that by getting to know them and by talking about something other than work. Show them your character and how you are as a person. As leaders we should be able to build real relationships with people and not make it transactional.

  • Christina Bejoy

    A great way to invest in intentional relationships is to invest in mentorships. It is always important to surround yourself with mentors of different arenas around you, whether that be in leadership, your specific career, religion or other goals. It is also important to mentor those who are trying to achieve goals that you have already accomplished. Investing in these relationships, helps a leader remember the skills they have acquired through their experience while also aspiring to be a better version of themselves. In both these types of relationships, the situation is not favorable for only one person. Rather both the parties win in the relationship. Thus, implementing these relationships inside and outside your workplace can help stay clear of having strictly transactional relationships.

  • Ana Savva Garcia

    As a leader, some ways you can make sure that you are involving your time in intentional relationships is through a careful examination of the people you want to work with. In his speech, Jack Evans mentioned that he does not even deal with transactional people because that is not what his leadership skills fit. If there is a situation where I had no choice but to work with transactional people, then I would respect their methods and work with them as best as possible to achieve the overall goal because through respect I believe you are able to work with pretty much anybody.

  • Jayden Batcheller

    It can be difficult to form intentional relationships over transformative relationships. With an intentional relationship comes intention, that cannot happen without work. As a leader, I try to be intentional with everyone I meet. Intentional relationships are not just meeting someone then continuing your day, it is forming a bond or a connection. In a business sense, people may want to form a relationship prior to doing any business with another person. If a company is picking between two people with the same skill set, to do business with, who are they more likely to choose, the person they do or do not have a more personal connection with. How we treat people and the relationships we form is how we are remembered.

  • Emilee J Handy

    I think that choosing to get to know people is one of the easiest ways to have an intentional relationship. For example, you talk to your teachers every day, but many people do not think to actually talk to their teachers. Getting to know your teachers can be an intentional relationship. Another example is your coworkers. When you think about your coworkers as just extensions of your job, then you are not creating any kind of meaning relationship with the people around you. Having meaningful relationships is not only good your mental health, but it also contributes to becoming a meaningful leader. Learning how to make those connections will continue to help you throughout your life.

  • Hana Abdelhadi

    In life, it is very important to have a support system of people that are close to you. This is because true, meaningful connections are not strictly transactional. It can be helpful to look out for signs of someone who is transactional. For example, if someone only messages you or calls you when they need something, it is likely they see the relationship as transactional. As humans, it is normal to ask “what is in it for me?” when we are faced with new relationships. However, I believe that the correct question should be “does this person help or hinder my growth?” As a leader, it is imperative to help others while also making sure that it is not hurting you in the process. That is why I would take Jack Evan’s advice of staying away from transactional people. To sum it up, surround yourself with those that care to know you, and appreciate the ones who help you grow.

  • Jessica Jones

    When asked about transactional people, Mr. Evans had said that he simply does his best to avoid them, however he also mentioned that in certain situations, especially in business, we are forced to act transactionally ourselves. I believe that this is true and a highly valuable insight, however, I also believe that sometimes we are forced to work with transactional individuals in our given fields, as I’m sure that Mr. Evans has been. This is especially true for individuals who are just beginning at the bottom of the ladder, and really don’t have much choice in their co-workers or bosses. In this sense Mr. Evans advises us to value company culture; this is an insight that I have heard before and one that most overlook, however it is also very important. In order to ensure that our relationships in any area are intentional rather than transactional we must evaluate the culture of that group. For example, the Leaders of Tomorrow organization requires us to join at least one UCO club, which could easily become a transactional relationship if we are not truly invested in the club we choose to join. I looked at several options, however I wanted to ensure that the relationship would be intentional, so my deciding factor seemed to be ‘company culture’. I chose to join the Student Art Association even though I’m not an art major because, while it is a favorite hobby of mine, I got to witness how friendly, attentive, and devoted the president and leadership was. This immediately made me want to devote myself to the organization and go the extra mile to get involved and support it!

  • Emily Patrick

    As leaders it is important to be able to recognize when the relations that we form may be transactional. After that we need to see what they are putting in the relationship, as well as be able to see what we are putting into it; so if they are just reciprocating what we are putting in it. However, making intentional relations as opposed to just relations for the grins and giggles of; can and will make all the difference in the world. We will get what we put into the relationship.

  • Tanner Trevino

    When you form relationships they have to be genuine and not just because you want to use someone to get to a better position. If you have no authenticity no one will truly be there for you and everyone will have a transactional relationship with you only coming around when they need something as well. Being vulnerable is something I think you need in order to be a transformative leader because you have to form bonds with everyone you’re leading, they have to know who you are if you want anyone to follow you. Being content with being wrong and allowing yourself to learn from being wrong is something else you have to do if you want to be transformative in anyway especially leadership. Every relationship we have is transactional in a way as we innately keep people around because they benefit us in someone way whether that being friendship/companionship or happiness which isn’t bad in any way. But I believe keeping people around only to benefit yourself without any care for the other person is a bad way of being transactional with those close to you and is selfish/harmful.

  • Alexander Rackley

    I think the best way to stay intentional in all my interactions, rather then transactional, is to stay authentic in all of my endeavors. People can smell when you’re being honest from a mile away, and like people who will give it to them straight. So, by being true, you attract other people who are truthful (in theory), leading to a less transactional circle of people in your life. There will still be some, however, who will crawl into your life and try to root themselves like a cancer. In such events, you have to make sure they are a healthy addition to your life, or if you’re better off without them. Cut the cancer out if necessary.

  • One of the greatest things that someone in a higher position can do is to invest in international relationships. These connections create a sense of leadership in a group. These leaders motivate others to create a sense of trust and moral respect between each other. Transactional people want to create business, not friends or partners. Transformative leaders go out of their way to make sure that everyone is involved and happy. As Jack Evans mentioned in his speech, he has people around that he knows are great in what they do and want to see the company, and its employees, progress by doing anything necessary. He has trust that these leaders will motivate and teach others around them with the knowledge that he might not even have. Transactional people only care about the end result of the product. They have no feelings for the people behind the product and who buy the product. Their main concern is themselves and how much they are making. Transformational leaders care about the people involved in the product and make sure they understand and are happy with the result.

  • Some the ways that you can do to develop meaningful relationships rather then transactional is being genuine and thoughtful for one another. It is not meaningful relationship if all you think is yourself only and think about what you can get rather then give. What comes out of meaningful relationships are trust and protection as well as the deep bond that connects one another. If one happens to encounter an transactional person, avoid them at all costs because the biggest difference in a transactional relationship is that person treats you like an item that is to be used strictly for business to achieve what they want. You are not treated equal but rather a possession like a chess piece in their game. What is most important is knowing the person who you are connecting with even if it starts out transactional at first like asking for help on a piece of homework. But, if you remain thoughtful, that relationship can turn into a meaningful one.

  • Isabel Baker

    Leadership is not only about professional relationships, but also personal relationships. The best leaders are always working towards creating more connections with others. Intentional relationships are needed for productive projects that require lots of teamwork. Whenever I am in a group setting I try to incorporate ways we can learn more about each other and become better friends. In the end, it is so rewarding to make these new friendships that may help the next project you do together. It can be extremely difficult to work with others you cannot get along with. Simple exercises can allow people to connect on ways that may not have thought of before.

  • Alondra Rios

    One of the parts of being a leader is actually being able to be geniuses. For example, it does matter who the person is or how much the person has, you really have to be sincere to any relationship coming your way. Have a real conversation with them and make them feel like they are someone. They are humans too and don’t see yourself above anyone because as they say by law of gravity everything that goes up comes down. So as you’re going up be humble and be friendly and real.

  • Miranda McLean

    Sometimes it can be difficult to avoid transactional relationships, and sometimes it might feel wrong to cut those relationships off out of fear that you might be losing something major. Then, when you finally find an intentional relationship that will not only be beneficial in a similar way of the transactional relationship (if not more beneficial), it will be a breath of fresh air. As transformative leaders, it is important to discover valuable, intentional relationships. These relationships allow us to learn about our fellow leaders and followers in a deeper way and build connections in our community. They also allow the building of trust, openness, and honesty. These types of relationships build character between all parties. Like Mr. Evans stated, sometimes it’s a matter of hosting events or parties to find these intentional relationships and see who is really there to help us grow. Relationships that are full of connection and purpose will be more fulfilling than strict, transactional relationships.

  • Cheyanne Young

    Building intentional relationships with people is important in order to grow your business, resume, or even organization. Sometimes it’s difficult to distinguish intentionally people and transactional people. One statement Jack Evans made during his presentation alluded to throwing a fundraising party and seeing who shows up. The people that showed up to the party were intentional people, and the people that did not show up were transactional. I can make that I am investing in transactional relationships, by paying close attention to the people around and making sure they are not around me for the sole purpose of getting stuff from me.

  • Jenna Karp

    I think it’s important to understand how valuable and necessary intentional and genuine relationships are. On the other hand, transactional relationships and people never give and only take, this can be very draining and hurtful to those working with transactional people. To keep yourself accountable and make sure you are are not falling into the patterns of a transactional leader, it’s important to focus on your selfishness. Selfishness is what drives a transactional person, causing them to do what’s best for them 100% of the time, never thinking of anyone else. Consciously making an effort to think of others involved will help keep your relationships intentional rather than transactional.

  • Jackson Lehew

    I believe that intention relationships is not of the most important things you can have in your life. Especially having those relationships outside of your job. These relationships will bring up connections and opportunities more than you would ever think. Conversations are very important when building an intentional relationship, also go the extra yard to ensure that the relationship is healthy.

  • It’s important to get to know people first to initiate intentionality in the relationship, as well as judge whether they want the relationship to be transactional or not. The relationship is double-sided. All parties have to put in the effort.

    The first step to being intentional is being truthful with yourself and others about your motives in forming a relationship. After you do that, friendships will flourish and “transactions,” so to speak, will occur later at the discretion of you both.

  • Jessica caballero

    Over the years i have learned that having intentional relationships are more meaningful and fulfilling. They are the relationships that deepen the human side of interactions. I remember when I used to quantify my relationships and not the quality of them. Surrounding myself with numbers rather than true friendships was not as fulfilling or helpful. Trust, loyalty and reliability are all qualities that help a transformative leaders become effective. I think that are transactional leadership those qualities get over looked because they rely on outcome and results, but the journey to get to the results will ultimately carve a path for leadership and the type of following that they get.

  • Roy Angele Kubwimana

    As leaders, it is good to have an intentional relationship to succeed and serve the community better. One of the ways to do it is to engage in their lives by asking questions like where they live, their favorite things to do after work, and their dream vacations. Another way is to treat others the way they desire to be treated.

  • Casey Merrill

    I think as a leader it is important to try and get to know the people you work with. treat them as an equal and listen to what they have to say. Take them into consideration when making plans and respect their time. Be constructive and genuine when you are trying to train or teach them. Remember that everyone can make mistakes even leaders.

  • Harrison Higdon

    I think Mr. Evans comments about investing time into those relationships outside of work, were very well spoken, and is something I also strongly believe in. Doing something that requires you to make that extra effort, like reaching out to a co-worker and inviting them over to watch the game after work. These are type of little acts of friendship we can do that go a long way. Boosting work morale with friends or teammates is always a positive, and can lead to long term success. Some of my best moments I’ll forever have when I look back on my basketball career are the little moments that don’t stand out as much in the moment. Like going to see a movie with the team after a tournament, or grabbing a bite to eat after practice. Those are the times I would treasure with my teammates, cause I believed those moments added up are what made us a unified team.

  • Ella Strader

    In Mr. Evans’ talk he stated that “you found out who your friends are.” I feel like this is very relevant for all ages. He said that he has charity work events that he throws that do not have any reward to them and the people that show up are intentional and are really there for him and his company. Instead of doing something like that I can listen and observe to see how I need to lead when it comes to all types of personalities. Being transactional is not something that needs to be held against someone but it needs to be known and I would have to know how to work with that type of personality.

  • James Brison

    I have always been big on developing relationships with people, rather than just doing business. By developing intentional relationships with people, not only will business run smoother by being better at communicating and cooperating, but you also get another person in which you can trust and rely on. One simple step you can take is by just having a smile on your face. It makes you feel more welcoming to those you are around. Also, by having conversations outside of work life, you can get to know those you are working with, which allows for the relationship to develop for both people. Obviously work has to be accomplished and sometimes you have to be transactional. However, by developing the intentional relationships with others, you can improve the environment and relationship with those you are working directly with.

  • Mariam Ourani

    I think that building Intentional relationships is super important as a leader because it may shock you who you stumble upon. When it comes to expanding ur horizons and trying to build connections for your career or your future your gonna have a lot of trial and error when it comes to who you can trust. But you’ll eventually find out who you work well with and that could really help you in the long run, if you know you have a solid circle. And overall as a leader you should always try to build intentional relationships with those around you Because it’s your job and duty to be trusted.

  • Meralyn Staudt

    Investing in relationships that are intentional is something that takes a lot of dedication and willingness to set and stick to boundaries that reflect your values. Meaningful relationships in a leadership setting are formed on trust, communication, and enthusiasm towards achieving a common goal. Working to strengthen these qualities in the relationships you form will ensure the authenticity of the connection and raise the likelihood of your cooperation in the future. People who are strictly transactional will be unwilling to build an actual relationship with you, and in essence will do you a favor by showing themselves out of your life. When the priorities of people working together shift from each individual simply wanting to “win”, to the priority being to achieve the best possible outcome for everyone, the dynamic of the community will change in a positive way as well.

  • Kelsey Sanchez

    I believe intentional relationships are important when it comes to leadership. Building a relationship with that individual will encourage them to follow. Ways you can build a relationship is asking questions, such as how are you or how have you been? genuinely asking about that individuals feelings and what their interest are. Being compassionate is important. Respecting and showing care to that individual is a way to invest into intentional relationships.

  • Adrian Smith

    Having the effort to understand what each relationship is built on helps prevent transactional groups. Learning and choosing to understand why one is with another person helps with ensuring that everyone involved does not feel out of place. This will help with communication and ensure that most of everyone you meet has a more meaningful role that not only supports you but allows you to support them. Yet having a transactional relationship isn’t always bad. Sometimes having a common interest in personal gain can create bonds, most often when it becomes unacceptable is when respect and dignity are lost in the relationship.

  • Cecilia Alali

    As a leader that can be very focused on my goals and achieving them, it can be really easy to fall into being a transactional leader and person to get what I want. However, by frontlining the problem and laying out smaller goals of intentionality with people, I can break out of that pattern. Being intentional in how I interact with the people joining me in my mission will lead to transformational leadership, which is usually better than simply achieving a goal.

  • Jentri Jordan

    I agree with Jack that working with transactional people is not ideal, but I also feel like as a leader you have to learn to work with all types of people. Surrounding yourself with other people who want to form intentional relationships is best, but we also don’t always get to choose who we have to work with. I see transactional people as close minded, and sometimes I think you might be able to change that in somebody depending on the person. I think intentional relationships are a great way to grow in your leadership abilities. Being personable and friendly to everybody can make a big impact on how well people work with you. By forming these international relationships you are also making connections that can be beneficial to you both inside and outside of work. In these relationships whether it’s with a colleague, classmate or just somebody you met you will always have somebody that you can rely on. Getting to know somebody on a personal level can help you build a relationship that can benefit both people.

  • GabrielaRamirez

    When working with large groups of people you are bound to interact with transactional relationships. Transactional relationships can be good to an extent, they serve a clear point based on exchange of goods or services. However this isn’t how you develop close relationships with others. I believe that by building intentional relationships is the key to building yourself and others around you. This is done by communication and being accepting of others beliefs. This wont successfully be done with everyone you come across, and that’s why it’s okay to have transactional relationships. On the other hand, intentional relationships can be far more meaningful. They allow you to collaborate with others goals in a synergistic way.

  • Kaylee Bjorkley

    We will always have transactional relationships in our lives. This is just how some people choose to carry out there relationships with others. However, that does not mean we have to be transactional with them. Sometimes being yourself can rub off on others. I know I have my back pack of tips and advice that I take from others. For example, if I see a helpful trick or I like the way someone is doing something, I’ll take what they are doing and put it in my back pack. I will start doing what they are doing. Not to follow the crowd, but to learn and grow on something that I see works well. Sometimes what you are doing can have a positive effect on how others choose to lead, communicate, live, or etc. We can use this with leadership and to build some non-transactional relationships. When dealing with these transactional relationships we can get to know the people we deal with. Ask how they’re day is going, what they’re doing this weekend, how are things going in life in general, and five years from now where do they want to me. You know just strike a conversation. It’s a 50/50 shot but you never know when you may be able to break the seal for someone to want to make non-transactional relationships and also meet a new friend. You can’t make someone be non-transactional but you can put the 50% effort in and who knows, maybe they put that other %50 percent in. Just invest your time and love into them always, and love everyone. Even strangers.

  • Claire Hardin

    I can ensure I am investing in intentional relationships and transformative leadership by finding commonalities in my relationships with others in order to connect with them outside of the “business only” attitude. Also, by finding shared interests with people, I can show I care for them as a person, not just a fellow professional. With the same token, I can make sure I am finding the meaning and why behind my involvement. When I am required to engage in things I am not the most passionate about, I can still be intentional by caring for people, first and foremost.

    One example in my life of how I can improve in this aspect is on the pom team. I believe I can do a better job of being a leader within my team by transitioning from transactional relationships with my team members in coach to transformational. I plan on doing this by being more encouraging during practices and taking the initiative when an issue arises. I realized I have been going through the motions, and I want to help lead my team through personal relationships with my teammates.

  • When Jack Evans was speaking about the importance of intentional relationships I agreed because just because it’s bussiness doesn’t mean you only have financial relationships having a personal professional connections build trust. Another thing that stuck out to me about Jack was that someone asked a question about what he does about companies who are only transactional and how he works with them and he answered “I don’t”. I liked that answer he has clear boundaries and knows to keep his business relationships intentional. I will use this is my future career one day to keep all my partnerships and so on intentional and not just look at the dollar sign and work with corrupt partners just for the money.

  • Matelyn Jones

    I think for every leadership position it is important to be respectful to everyone. It is also important to be clear and concise in your goals. If some is trying to be transactional it is easier to decline the offer if you have been clear and concise. They will most likely respect your decision about the situation because you were respectful and concise. If they are rude because you declined the offer then that is a relationship you don’t want to be involved with.

  • Amer Hawsawi

    Getting a strong relationship with your neighbor, your co-worker, friends, and even your boss. Creating a trustful environment that makes anything you do easy. However, when you found that one of the people you meet in your life, and I must do a business with them then I got to find a way to deal with it because I cannot avoid people in the rest of my life. Meeting with people who have lots experience in life that would even give lots of strategy and patience to a chive what I am looking for. The way I understand life is we have been created to understand it but to live the way we can to help people around me so they would do the same.

  • Zain Whitlock

    how to get great at making relationships is making sure you are being expandable to them. most relationships don’t happen just at the work place. they can happen at the companies bbq or just meeting a co-worker at a church or a party. and making those connections help other connections and you can start relying on them and starting to take bits of pieces of leadership from them and you can start using them in you work place.

  • Kathryn Plunkett

    Ensuring that we invest in intentional relationships begins with trying to develop meaningful relationships. Being intentional with individuals within your work space or school environment is so crucial. This is how basic relationships turn into impactful friendships that contribute to the success of work. Transformative leadership relies on investing in others that you see need growth. We should spend time on those that need improvements not for the success of ourselves, but for the success of the job or organization as a whole. However, sometimes we should be leary of people taking advantage of us and know when to stay clear of that. That is an exception for being transactional.

  • Jessica Lopez

    Ways I can make sure I’m investing in intentional relationships are getting to know people to their core and spending time with them. You can help each other grow as transformative leaders and be true to each other, even when there aren’t transactions involved. With transactional relationships, the respect should still be there; however, there is a reason behind it.

  • Tori Hoffman

    One of the first things I can think of when it comes to intentional relationships is being true and intentional to yourself. You must first understand who you are as a person and be willing to be the best version of yourself. I have become more intentional in my relationships because of it. When you know yourself you can know others. When you are intentional with you relationships, then you will tend to avoid transactional people. People that are transactional do not understand others.