Lessons in Leadership – Week 10 – Pat Hall and Jim Dunlap

A key message from Pat and Jim’s presentation was engaging in civility in your personal and professional life. Several of your questions also centered on this theme – disagreeing agreeably. How do we as leaders manage this process, and still inspire and lead in our communities?

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  • Jenna Karp

    It is hard to separate your personal emotions in a disagreement with someone whos views differ from yours. Emotions intensify when you are passionate about something which can often lead to heated arguments with no mutual understanding or compromise. In order to be civil with others and disagree agreeably it’s important to get to know that person on a deeper level and understand their personality. This gives you a greater sense of empathy towards them and can begin to create civil conversation. Although compromise is necessary, it’s important to stand strongly in your beliefs and advocate for your cause. To do so civilly, you must focus and broadcast why you believe what you believe rather than beating down and speaking negatively on the opposite opinion. All you can do is voice your opinion to bring attention towards the topic and inspire others to do the same.

  • Marcus Evans

    I think the best way to lead and inspire others in the community is by showing respect to those around you. Respect can go a long way in any relationship and helps build new connections. It is hard to disagree agreeably if either party feels entitled or thinks their opinion reigns supreme over other’s. Selfishness is the downfall of agreement. Another way to remain civil to those who think opposite of you is by reading the room. Knowing how and when to speak up can show selflessness and confidence and show that conflict can be avoided and compromise can be reached.

  • Emily Patrick

    We as leaders need to realize that at our core we are all humans, who need to make the world a better place. It is okay to disagree, but when we disagree, that is when compromise and reality come into play. Working with those of differing views and perspectives can give us a better view of the world and how those from other walks of life think.

  • Having the ability to respect someone else’s opinion is crucial to leadership. If someone can tell that you are trying hard to listen to their views, this begins to build trust between the different parties.I think that as leaders we can begin to recognize the differences we have between others. Letting this difference be known is the best way to keep people engaged and help them understand the reasonings behind the disagreements. Considering compromise should definitely be included in the process of disagreeing agreeably. This is what unifies the different parties together to get work done.

  • Cecilia Alali

    As a leader, it is important to put aside your preconceived notions of people and lead them not solely because you agree, but because it’s your obligation as a leader. The only way to achieve this is to disagree agreeably. I loved getting to listen to Jim and Pat on Tuesday. They were a perfect representation of how leaders should conduct disagreeing agreeably, because their differences did not deter them from the task at hand. They were willing to find their common ground, which I thought was really important to hear. Often, leaders can get caught up in being right, instead of reaching healthy compromise, which is also a part of disagreeing agreeably. All in all, leaders must be willing to learn how to reach healthy compromises, all in pursuit of completing the task at hand with efficiency.

  • Katherine Ryerson

    If we cannot learn to disagree agreeably, then we will not be able to effectively communicate. Without the ability to communicate, we will continue to notice more and more confrontation between people. The root of this problem comes from a lack of understanding and listening. Listening is one of the biggest factors of communication, but unfortunately, it is least often remembered. If we cannot listen to each other, then we are not respecting each other. I think in order to inspire and lead our communities, we first need to slow down. Slowing down allows us to process by listening, communicate well, and as a result show respect to our opposing view. If only we understood, you do not have to agree to get along. You also do not have to agree to be respectful.

  • Kyrah Raasch

    One major key in maintaining civility and disagreeing agreeably is by understanding everyone has a right to form their own opinion on issues. Leaders understand that no matter what side they are on, if they hear a good idea and agree with it, then they use that idea. Another key aspect is by respecting others. Respect others opinions, do not be rude, and try to understand the others point of view. Always be open minded and willing to change the opinions you have. If a leader feels the same as they did on an issue after discussions have occurred, that is fine as long as they were open minded during the process.

  • Whisper McDoulett

    Civility in all aspects of life can be extremely difficult to maintain. I have found that many times, I can be so stubborn and stuck on a certain stance about a topic. Even with my hardheadedness, as time passes my mind shifts on that subject and I start to see the combatant’s standpoint. It’s hard seeing past people’s political views into their heart. I have to be conscious of the fact that they’ve gone through vast amounts of trials to get to where they are today. Those things have shaped them to the beliefs they now hold. I also have to remember that no one will even be the slightest bit interested in what I have to say if I don’t listen to their opposing opinion as well. We all want to be heard and valued. We have to do our parts in letting our mental blocks down and seeing people’s hearts. A leader loves all and leads an equal playing field. This is a quality that doesn’t go unnoticed and can set an example to further a more civil and united world.

  • Jordan Montelongo

    I believe leadership is all about perspective. Both Pat and Jim pointed out that we have to understand that people come from different backgrounds and experiences. To be an effective leader, it is important to listen and engage with the person who may have a different perspective than you. Looking at the bigger picture and eliminating the negative aspect of disagreeing, will allow you to stay focused on the goal you share. Having the right people around you even if they disagree with you will be beneficial to collaborate ideas and ultimately help shape a better community. As leaders we want to succeed and one way of accomplishing that is by showing respect, expressing curiosity, and being open with one another.

  • Amaya Coleman

    We manage this by being able to hear the other side respectfully. Obviously not everyone will agree but being able to sit and listen to someone you disagree with makes you a good leader. You can inspire people by showing them that you have the ability to get along with the other side and put your ego to the side. You can lead with this by incorporating someone who you don’t agree with ideas.

  • Emma Cunningham

    It is clear that most people we encounter, there is something that we would be able to disagree about. Not only do we experience this but we witness others experience this. This means that we must be able to interact with people with alternative beliefs in a civil manner. I think one of the best ways to understand someone with a radically different believe than you would be to find the reason they believe what they do. Most people have roughly similar morals, and if they do not, you can oftentimes sympathize with what they believe. If you can find out why someone believes what they do, then it’s easier to accept that you have different ways to achieve the same larger goal.

  • Teagan Jellison

    To be a leader you have to be able to disagree agreeably. There will never be a time in life where people always agree with you. Learning to be able to hear and understand why another side of an issue feels the way they do can make you more educated on a subject. A good leader has their position on topics but can hear others out. Without hearing others, change can never happen. A great example of this is religion. While someone may not believe in the same things someone else does, a good leader can respect a persons’ opposing beliefs and understand that they don’t agree but can still be kind and respectful to one another.

  • Christina Bejoy

    As leaders we are more likely to be situations wherein we might not agree with the majority. One of the best ways to disagree agreeably is to try to understand their perspective and try “walking in their shoes”, I believe this would help us to disagree with them in a more understanding manner. Secondly, Pat and Jim also mentioned letting another person take charge when you can’t morally agree with a particular opinion or topic. I believe it is essential for a leader to understand their core values and not waiver from it. Therefore, taking a step back lets your community know that you only lead on matters that you can morally agree with it. In both these ways, I think the community would be inspired because the leader is being understanding of the other side and not standing up for something they don’t believe in.

  • Claire Hardin

    There is a spotlight on major leaders when particularly controversial issues arise. People wonder how they will respond. In recent years, the responses from our nation’s leaders have provoked the deepening divide in our country. However, I believe we upcoming leaders have the responsibility to repair this divide by engaging in civil discourse in our communities, as Pat and Jim encouraged.

    I believe this process looks like true information articulately expressed without an agenda. In this class, we learned that most people listen to respond instead of listening to understand. I believe this reveals one of the contributing factors to our current problem. People do not listen. They allow their assumptions and biases to control their responses. Therefore, little progress is made in our debates with neighbors. To be fair, remaining unbiased is difficult and must be practiced. I find this a skill I am constantly cultivating. Civil discourse, as Pat and Jim exemplified, is the way in which we can repair relationships and find common ground. This must include building a relationship with the people in your community on a human level, first and foremost. Then, I believe both parties should end each discourse, no matter how heated, by recognizing each other’s intrinsic human dignity. By engaging in civil discourse, leaders will be an example to those who look up to them. In this way, we may inspire our neighbors to find common ground and begin to repair the divide.

  • Ana Savva Garcia

    I think that through being respectful to everyone around you, whether they agree with you or not, we can be able to still lead and inspire in out communities. Realizing that we are all just humans who have different opinions and that respect does not mean agreement on those opinions. It just means that I respect why you believe what you believe even if I personally do not, and that together we can both inspire people in the community to do great things, which is what truly matters.

  • Jessica Jones

    Within Mr. Hall and Mr. Dunlap’s presentation they made many engaging points, including what I believe to be the answer to the challenge of civility in leadership. One of these several insights was that “we are not here to agree, we’re here to make the place better”, and this shared motivation is what must allow us to connect civilly, even to those with whom we disagree. In order to have civil discourse we must have some common ground, and if we are honestly attempting to improve our communities, then this common good can foster the mutual sense of respect upon which it is built. If we have such authentic motives as these then it should allow us to inspire and lead those who both agree and disagree with us, ideally. For example, if we analyze an issue that one of our speakers mentioned, like the pharmaceutical industry, we might find person A arguing that medications are too expensive; the industry is corrupt, and we should find better ways of getting people access to medication. At the same time, person B might say that while costs are high, we need that incentive to get companies into the business and get them to develop continually better products, so instead, by endorsing the industry, we can get people broader access to better medications. While the the two individuals may vehemently disagree on the method, we would probably find that they actually agree on the fact that people need access to medications, and that bettering their communities is the positive goal they would like to achieve by solving this issue. Ultimately, they can be respectful of one another because they share a common concern for the wellbeing of others, and therefore the argument becomes less about the humanity of the opponent and more about the designs through which they can accomplish their common goal. If one is to lead both of these individuals, this commonality is what must be used as the basis of all communication and the primary factor in most decisions.

  • Ella Strader

    Being polite and knowing how to respect someones boundaries is a key point in engaging with peers. Some of the greatest leaders use their composure and ability to relate to their audience. Civility is one thing that us as Americans should learn. Being more neutral but also fighting for what you believe in can be tricky when it comes to leading for a group of people. As humans we want to see things our way and no one else’s. Being able to stay open minded and knowing what boundaries to push lead to more successful leaders. You do not have to force others to see your opinion to be a great leader, you need to listen and respect those people you represent.

  • I think having someone who disagrees with you will challenge your ideas and opinions which can change the way you view things. But, at the same time, you have to be respectful to one other and express clear communication. In addition to that, you have to willing show active listening to the people who are speaking out their opinions even if you disagree. You have to be patient and allow yourself to see where they coming with this opinion. Sometimes it can their experiences or background that makes them say this or that which it can be hard to put yourself in their shoes if you never experienced what they have gone through. So, be able to listen and express empathy because you have to be understanding. When you are listening and keeping up with what they saying, you may find what their core values are and their beliefs. Once you do find it, you can bring it up and speak it out to the people which can inspire them and shows them that you acknowledge their opinions. Not only that, their experiences, background and ideas. After you look at both sides and understand their point of view, you can be a peace maker or the person who makes the important decision for the group to resolve their tension.

  • Emilee J Handy

    Part of being a leader is focused around understanding that you are different than others around you. With this, understanding what things are most important to you, and which things that your opinion will not change about, will help you from getting into disagreements with your peers. If you feel very strongly about a subject, and know your opinion has no room for growth, then it is not something you should push on to others. Being emotionally intelligent enough to understand that many people will not agree with you, even if it is something you are incredibly passionate about, and choosing to accept that for what it is, is a crucial part of being a leader.

  • Jimmy Davison

    I think one of the most difficult aspects of leadership is trying to find the line of agreeing with people you disagree with while still standing with your beliefs, I think the best way to do this is to remember at the end of the day you have a job to do and you’re going to have to compromise to accomplish it

  • Isabel Baker

    Disagreeing agreeably is an extremely difficult yet very rewarding tactic that many great leaders utilize today. It comes from the knowledge that people are going to have conflict with each other. There are times that these disagreements will eventually make a project fail. By reminding yourself that not everyone thinks the same way you do, you can work together with all kinds of people. This is crucial for a successful leader and a person who values teamwork. Doing a project alone can be helpful at times, but it is best to utilize teamwork for all aspects of life.

  • Hana Abdelhadi

    Sometimes it can be very difficult to keep calm and remain civil when one is involved in a conversation that they feel passionately about. Whenever I find myself in this situation I usually try to slow down and think about the issue from their viewpoint. This does not mean that I will agree with them, but it can help me feel more respect towards them. It is always important to remain kind and to clearly explain one’s viewpoint in order for the other person to see where one is coming from. When one is patient and kind it can make the other person more inclined to try and understand the point one is trying to get across. And at the end of the day, if both parties still disagree, there can be an agreement to disagree. The two parties do not have to like each other or agree, but they should treat each other with respect .

  • Alondra Rios

    How I believe that you could manage this process is just accepting the fact that not everybody is going to always agree with you, nor will you always agree with them. I also believe that there are certain situations that make you not care about what others agree with or disagree for example becoming a manager whether they agree or not they have to do as you say so by that there are exceptions. So, with that, I just believe that not everybody will agree with you, and you must accept that. Imagine if everybody would think the same this world wouldn’t work out and we probably wouldn’t be here today. So, accept that fact and respect that as well, and don’t let that disagreement become an issue.

  • A recurring theme in both of their messages was not to judge others by their beliefs. Jim and Pat believe in varying political positions. They argue and debate all the time, but they leave it at that. This is how I believe that we, as leaders, can motivate and lead in our communities. Pat and Jim are great examples of how we should lead. They have different beliefs, but they share one common value, supporting and respecting others. They might argue but do so with an open mind, not with the mindset that they are right and the other is wrong and idiotic. Listening to what others have to say, even if it’s not what you believe, and respecting their voice is important. If you show respect to someone, chances are they will show that respect back. Building this mutual respect leads to teamwork and inspires unity between the members.

  • Lani Hensley

    Disagreeing agreeably can be a challenging process for many leaders solely due to our constant need of desiring to be right. As leaders we need to be able to be open-minded and willing to listen to the other side of the story, whether we agree or not. Moreover, we should always try to find a common ground and ultimately have respect for each other and the differing views. Nonetheless, when conflict is faced, we have to set our biases aside and find a common ground much like Pat and Jim has done.

  • Kelsey Sanchez

    They both stated how it is okay to have disagreements and still respect the other persons opinion. They mentioned how they both disagree on a lot of topics and still remain friends and disagree with respect.

    I believe it is possible to disagree with respect if we hear the person out and accept that it is okay that they have a different opinion. I think it is important to be open and not close minded and know that not everyone is always going to agree or have the same opinion as you. We all have different experiences in life that lead us to our own beliefs. I think our life experiences build us into who we are and that leads to having our own opinion on topics. As a leader we have to accept different opinions and be civil to show others that it is doable. It is okay to not agree but it is important to do it with respect.

  • Cheyanne Young

    It can be difficulty sitting through a conversation with a person that you don’t agree with. However, we as leaders and individuals have to be able to handle our our emotions in a professional way in order to get our point across. People are not ‘going follow us if get upset with everyone that has a differencing opinion from us. Things are also not going to get accomplished if we can’t sit down with a person and talk about it. Communication is huge, but actively listening to another person is when you can learn so much.

  • Miranda McLean

    We naturally tend to let our personal opinions and beliefs keep us from forming relations with those who have different perspectives. As leaders, it is important to break down these walls and push aside certain beliefs, so we can lead together in a healthier manner. If we push aside our differences, our communication skills will flourish, our views could change, our listening skills will thrive, and important relationships will multiply and continue to prosper.

    It is important to not have a preconceived idea that we are always right, but to understand that we can always learn. Even in leadership positions, we can learn from others around us. In some cases, we might not agree with them, but it’s always a learning experience. We can still disagree with someone while being civil and understanding.

  • Tanner Trevino

    You have to remember everyone is human at the end of the day and it’s okay to disagree on things. Leaders are always being watched by others and should aspire to inspire others at all times, this being said in disagreement I think you should always listen to the other side as thoroughly as you can, not simply to respond to them but to understand what they’re saying. I believe listening can end any disagreement between people. Keeping your calm during disagreements will always help things from getting to heated and will show others how composed and maintained leaders should be. Pat and Jim are perfect examples of disagreeing agreeably as they didn’t like each others political views but overcame that and worked together to form not only a friendship but a mutually beneficial lobbying company to fight for both of their political views simultaneously.

  • Alexander Rackley

    I think there has to be a level of understanding between the two parties. While i think there are some topics you can’t disagree about agreeably, on other topics you have to be able to ask yourself “Am I really willing to die on this hill?”. If the answer is yes, go off obviously. But i find when someone asks themselves that question, it can help them step out of themselves for a moment, and realize that some arguments are just better off being left with a “agree to disagree” and moving on. Especially in popular media discourse. I’m looking at you marvel fans.

  • Alexander Rackley

    I think there has to be a level of understanding between the two parties. While i think there are some topics you can’t disagree about agreeably, on other topics you have to be able to ask yourself “Am I really willing to die on this hill?”. If the answer is yes, go off obviously. But i find when someone asks themselves that question, it can help them step out of themselves for a moment, and realize that some arguments are just better off being left with a “agree to disagree” and moving on. Especially in popular media discourse. I’m looking at you neckbeards.

  • Jessica Caballero

    I have always had this thought in my head since I was young. Why do we need to take sides. The parties lines that we have become accustomed to has caused such a huge divide in the country and in the world. Why do we have to take sides? What is it about human nature that makes us fall in line with one group or another? Agreeing to disagree is nice if there was civility but as biology has shown in the animal kingdom, we are not that different. There will always be conflict. I just want to know that the leader that I support also supports everything that I believe in. That might mean that I support opposing leaders of different parties or groups. We should be willing to follow and support any leader or become leaders ourselves in order to benefit the greater good. Its a very subjective way of looking at leadership because no one comes into leadership to do harm. Leadership is a matter of opinion of others based on the performance of progress and how effective the leader was while in the position. Did they rise to the occasion and bring people together or did they cause a great rift amongst the community. Leadership should always strive to bring groups together.

  • Roy Angele Kubwimana

    As leaders, it is good to remember that they lead people with brains and different mindsets. This means that people will want to be engaged in the decisions that are about to affect their life. In that period, the discussion will come up where someone may give a different idea which may cause some conflict. However, leaders need to look for the big picture regardless of what they want or believe in and try to find something which will benefit society. Another thing to look to is to difference disagreement and disrespect. If someone does not agree with you, it does not mean they are disrespectful to you. They have different opinions.

  • Jayden Batcheller

    Disagreeing agreeably is necessary in the world, without it we would go to no ends when disagreeing. In my experience, disagreeing agreeably came rather easy. My parents and I have opposite political views, as it normally does, this raised some arguments, where, out of respect, we would agree to disagree. Even with people we love, civility can be hard to maintain while disagreeing. It is important to keep civility present in all aspects because everyone deserves respect and kindness. Respect should always be given.

  • Jerzi Hawkins

    I think as leaders, we have to be able to look at things from all sides. Even when we do not agree with the direction our peers are coming from, we have to take the time to understand that they are a human, with their own personal views and they are not trying to create ill will. We have to believe that they have pure intentions, and treat it as such. I believe everyone has it in them to maintain civility, it comes down to us keeping open and honest communication with each other. We also have to keep an open mind to maintain this communication. We have to be willing to listen to understand instead of listening to respond to maintain civility in all aspects of the world today.

  • Matelyn Jones

    The biggest part of being a leader is respecting other people’s opinion. It is easy to get along with people with the same opinion and get use to that environment. When the opinions get questioned it is sometimes natural to be defensive. As leaders it is important to not let those barriers block every viewpoint.

    Imagine four different yards: one that has no fence, one that has a chain fence, one that has a wooden fence, and one that has barbwire fence. Which one is the most welcoming? It would be the yard without a fence and the chain fence. This is similar to leadership, people are more likely to go to someone who has an opened and welcoming yard. Sometimes we need a barrier in order to protect our core values, however, we should still keep in open mind. With chain fence they can protect their values, and still see other people’s point of view. The wooden fence blocks people’s views and unless you know them you are less likely to interact with them. The barbwire fence is the most defensive and can hurt other people if they were to try to interact. The barbwire fence is similar to the fellowship of the miserable.

    So what does this all mean? Make sure to keep an open mind and try to be welcoming. There will always be fellowship of the miserable, but that shouldn’t stop the good in the world. Try to be positive, and respect people’s opinion even if you don’t agree with it.

  • Kelci Hoffman

    Good leaders have characteristics that allow them to hear and accept other people’s opinions, some of those being from subordinates. Some leaders have trouble accepting opinions and listening to people who they see as “beneath them”. A person being under someone in the cooperate hierarchy should not have an impact on whether or not their ideas and opinions are being accepted by their leaders.

  • alexis aguinaga

    I would like to start off with I respect the two speakers very much because they have two very different standpoints Democrat and republican and they do not agree on much but they do agree in the importance of civility. Theres nothing wrong with disagreeing but the issue is when there is a lack of respect. You can disagree and still respect how they feel and try your best to see it from their point of view. Another thing I want to point out is that they both want to make the world a better place and they know it will take them working together despite differences to get there.

  • Harper Pitts

    Civil discourse is sort of a given with civility as a skill becuase without the discourse in the first place the necessity for civility is tarnished. However, understanding the difference between civil discourse and others testing a leader’s boundaries is one way to ensure a civil leader isn’t being taken advantage of. A leader attempting to make all voices and opinions heard may fall victim to hateful speech or inappropriate language disguised as an ‘opinion’. Similarly, being in a leadership position comes with the notion that personal responsibility is included with influence. Inclusion of feedback from people with different races, cultures, ethnicity, socio-economic backgrounds, ability, sexual orientations and religious backgrounds regardless of the leaders own thoughts a necessity. Other’s backgrounds and lived experiences are not a negotiation and a civil leader welcomes disperse perspectives.

  • Jessica Lopez

    Disagreeing agreeably means to come to terms with the fact that others have different opinions and being okay with it. The key words are being okay with it. Today, there is lots of controversy and division, simply because people are entitled to their own opinions. Being a good leader means taking those opinions and create compromises. That will better our community by satisfying both sides of the spectrum and inspiring people to do the same.

  • Tori Hoffman

    Something that can be extremely difficult is to stay true to yourself and still be civil to the ones that don’t hold those same values. You do not have to separate yourself from your values, you just have to be able to understand that everyone is different. Understand that most people truly believe in doing the right thing and we just have different perceptions of what is right. If you are able to do this you can lead in the best capacity. All leaders need to be able to do this at some point even when it is challenging. It is something that can be learned and should be.

  • Jentri Jordan

    As humans it is always hard to put aside your own opinions, especially when you have a strong belief. As a leader you have to understand that your beliefs won’t always be the same as everybody else’s. Being a leader also means being able to listen to other people’s opinions, even when they are the same as yours. You have to put aside your own opinions and find common ground. Jim and Pat both talked about how even though they support different political parties they can still find common ground and work towards a goal together. They both discussed how they were able to build a friendship, while also sticking to their own beliefs and opinions. You have to learn to respect other people’s opinions if you want them to respect yours. When people with different opinions learn to respect each other and listen to what the other person has to say, it becomes easier for them to find common ground or make a compromise. Without this level of respect and listening nothing would ever be accomplished. I think it is important to develop these skills if you want to become a successful leader.

  • mariam ourani

    I really enjoyed pat and jims speech last thursday. I feel like one main aspect about leadership that everyone has to get familiar and comfortable with is keeping your personal emotions out of work. A good leader must be trusted by all, not just those who they share the same opinions or moral beliefs with. Personally I feel like to be able to maintain healthy relationships its good to practice working with those you may not really like deep down. But in the end its worth it

  • Adrian Smith

    Civility relies heavily on respect towards one another. Why we as leaders don’t always share the same views, if we want to gain the respect of others it should be natural to give it back. Yet sometimes it’s hard, especially when one’s view goes directly against your own. Showing a little respect towards someone can go a long way in progressing progress in our relationships as we grow as leaders. That respect will in turn lead to that civility that we should strive to reach.

  • Olivia Shults

    When it comes to civility I believe the best thing you can do is have respect for others. While it is perfectly fine not to agree with someone you have to respect their opinions and understand why they have those opinions. Understanding the ‘why’ is very important, understanding the reasons someone thinks a certain way helps you understand their side of the argument more and allows you to be more understanding with the situation. Having civility requires you to have respect for others even when you don’t have the same beliefs as them. Civility can be very difficult sometimes but it is very important to use civility with others, especially in a place of work, to be able to affectively get the job done. A leader knows the importance of civility and continues to understand when it is okay to not get along perfectly with someone.

  • David Harlin

    One thing every leader has to come to terms with is realizing that progress sometimes requires compromise. Leaders often live very black and white lives. They know what they believe and they never compromise on those beliefs. Although that is a commendable trait, it can often inhibit progress and meaningful change. Therefore, it is important to be willing to listen to opposing views. This requires a high level of civility. Sometimes listening to opposing viewpoints can raise feelings of hostility, but these feelings must be put aside in order to affect real and meaningful change.

  • Your personal beliefs definitely play a role in how you lead. They shape your morals and that directly translates to your leadership style. However, just as a leader may have a different view on something, so would their followers. If leaders with different views can unite on a common front and lead their followers to a unified goal.

    Some things are going to remain disagreed upon. This is also okay! What matters are that leaders must thoroughly and efficiently lead to get their supporters to whatever their end goal is so people feel seen and heard.

  • Jackson Lehew

    To be engaging in civility in your personal and professional life, you must understand the concept of putting others first. Being one who always listened, and was there for everyone. Being agreeable is more beneficial when trying to be civility. You need to be a good listener, not just listening, but being an active listener. Lastly, you need to be kind. Being kind towords can brighten someones day up so fast.

  • Kaylee Bjorkley

    I find it one of the hardest things for myself as a leader, that is to disagree agreeably. It is hard to separate your bias to what is truly right. Of course you want your idea or your message to be what everyone else thinks is a good idea or a message. You can’t have it like that because not everyone thinks the same way you do. I’ve learned that just by experiencing it being on a exec board for ROTC and for just being a student council participant, and quite frankly just growing up. With JROTC it takes your whole team to decide what’s the best idea before it gets pushed forward. No voting, no arguing, we all sit in a room until we all agree on one idea. Whether our bias agrees or not, it’s always what is the best for everyone. With stu co, if you want everything to turn out good and with the right amount of participation, you need to all agree on something. You can’t just lead solely on what you want to happen, you’ll get no participation. You have to all agree to disagree and push what is best for everyone. Along with just growing up. Your parents are probably your biggest bug when it comes to arguing. Most times you don’t reach and agreement, but when you do, you both make each other happy and get what you both desire. I’ve learned that with life comes hard decisions, and it’s what you decide that tells you whether or not it’s gonna be successful or it will fall apart. This is how I inspire myself to lead in my communities. That is to listen to what everyone wants and try to decide the best outcome and go with that. Whether it was my idea or whether I was happy with that was decided. Whatever makes the group happy and that I can proudly put my name up with it, is how I will continue to lead. Mutual agreement that I can agree with.

  • James Brison

    In life, we find ourselves disagreeing with people with different opinions. This is human nature. However, by having civility in our lives, we can disagree yet still engage with others. If we block out those who we disagree with, we are preventing ourselves from growing in different parts of our lives. We prevent ourselves from getting to know and understand others. However, if we disagree yet get to understand others, both parties can grow and possibly work together on the topic.

  • Ashley Jimenez

    I have learned that you can’t force others to think the same way you think. It will be a never ending cycle if you push for them to think like you. As leaders, we need to set aside each others differences and communicate. Not only communicate but comprehend why the other person thinks that way and accept it. Agree to disagree. Pat and Jim are great examples that you can work with others that do not necessarily think like you.

  • Meralyn Staudt

    Conflict and disagreement are a natural part of human interaction; there will never be a time or place without some sort of disagreement. Despite some of the issues this can cause, diversity in thinking is so vital to our communities. It’s important to understand that there is a reason people have different opinions and ideas, and that the “best” way of doing something is relative to the individual! Most importantly, having respect for people and recognizing their inherent dignity can allow you to understand that disagreement doesn’t have to result in conflict. As important as it is to cooperate with others and remain openminded, staying true to your values and beliefs is necessary as well. People that can be authentic and speak their mind while collaborating successfully with others are leaders that inspire others!

  • Amer Hawsawi

    I believe that being part your society but dependent of your thoughts is the best way that you can make deference on the leadership world. When you think or feel, you are good on specific subject, just hold on it and grow it so you can be the best of it then try to get more experience on other subjects. However, it is not necessarily fit on others. You have to understand that lots of people are going to disagree on your thoughts and you have to be ready to accept that fact. That what I believe what comes with the leadership.

  • Zain Whitlock

    We, as leaders, inspire other people by example. We don’t need to yell and be demanding with people as most people think of leaders as people who know what there doing, so they tell us what to do. But I think as leaders, it’s great to be working with the people and to inspire others by your example and hopefully spark something in them that they should be helping out too.